Did you ever felt like sometimes you are not getting anywhere when it comes to disciplining your child? It can be really tiring and frustrating when your child just won’t listen and adhere to your advice and rules, and I myself have had a lot of these over the years.
When I gave a deep thought about it and start thinking and looking at things from outside the box, I realized that I might have overlooked some important things. Sometimes we think that we’ve been firm and clear enough in communicating with our children, but the reality is, we did nothing. We lost track.
These things happen because of many reasons. Busyness and stress are among 2 of them. Did you realized that you unconsciously gave in to your child’s demands? Or back down when trying to enforce some rules and discipline at home?
While we might not realize it, our children do! Children are very sensitive to all these.
Here, I’m sharing with you 3 things you should keep in mind when you’re setting rules and disciplining your children. Keep them in mind, always.
1. You cannot be saying NO to something today, and YES to the same thing again tomorrow. Your children are very sensitive to this and when they can sense inconsistency in yourself, they will undermine your authority shown towards them. Once the see inconsistency in your decision making, they will interpret it as a sign that your rules don’t really carry weight, and there are chances they can break them.
Be consistent. Otherwise, you’re only making life difficult for yourself!
2. Make sure your actions speak louder than your words. The fastest way a child can learn something is by watching their parents. They are more likely to do what they see you do rather that do what you tell them to do.
You have to set good and excellent examples at home! For example, you ban your child from eating in the lounge, and the next time you realize is that you and your spouse is eating there! This will only lead to one thing, your child will start questioning ALL the rules you’ve set at home.
3. Giving up is not an option. Persistence and perseverance is the key.
I know sometimes it takes a long time for your child to understand your message and rules. But you should not give up or give in! I sometimes feel tiring and pathetic hearing myself keep repeating the same thing to my children, and they still don’t get it.
But hey! repetition is learning.
Did you know that children can naturally be very forgetful? That’s because they are more motivated by their own interests which are usually different from yours, so your rules and values are last on their list!
Repeat, repeat and repeat!
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Saludos! Greetings!
Very interesting information and in very simple steps. I have been sharing it with my two daughters so they can better “work” with their children (two daughters and total of 5 small grandchildren). Specially my oldest daughter (age 37) who just adopted two beautiful children (siblings age 4 and 5)who were in foster care (in other homes) for the last three years. The were living with 12 other children of different ages, so you can imagine all the different “messages” they were exposed to. Your information has been very valuable in their adjustmenht process (both new parents and the children). I have also shared the information with other parents I know.
Thank you and many blessings.
Dr. Zulma I. Rodriguez
Jamie,
Another short and sweet post. I like the way you make things simple for me to understand. I’ve been practicing what you mentioned above all these years and it’s great to see other parents like you doing the same thing.
Yeah, they work. Thanks for reminding myself about it.
THIS IS A VERY GOOD WAY TO GET TO DO THINGS WE NEED THEM TO DO AT HOME,ACTUALLY IT IS LEADERSHIP BY EXAMPLE.
THANKS JAMIE FOR THE POST IT IS THE BEST FOR THIS TIME.
I HAVE FORWARDED THIS POST TO FEW FRIENDS.
GOD BLESS YOU.