When I gave a deep thought about it and start thinking and looking at things from outside the box, I realized that I might have overlooked some important things. Sometimes we think that we’ve been firm and clear enough in communicating with our children, but the reality is, we did nothing. We lost track.

These things happen because of many reasons. Busyness and stress are among 2 of them. Did you realized that you unconsciously gave in to your child’s demands? Or back down when trying to enforce some rules and discipline at home?

While we might not realize it, our children do! Children are very sensitive to all these.

Here, I’m sharing with you 3 things you should keep in mind when you’re setting rules and disciplining your children. Keep them in mind, always.

1. You cannot be saying NO to something today, and YES to the same thing again tomorrow. Your children are very sensitive to this and when they can sense inconsistency in yourself, they will undermine your authority shown towards them. Once the see inconsistency in your decision making, they will interpret it as a sign that your rules don’t really carry weight, and there are chances they can break them.

Be consistent. Otherwise, you’re only making life difficult for yourself!

2. Make sure your actions speak louder than your words. The fastest way a child can learn something is by watching their parents. They are more likely to do what they see you do rather that do what you tell them to do.

You have to set good and excellent examples at home! For example, you ban your child from eating in the lounge, and the next time you realize is that you and your spouse is eating there! This will only lead to one thing, your child will start questioning ALL the rules you’ve set at home.

3. Giving up is not an option. Persistence and perseverance is the key.

I know sometimes it takes a long time for your child to understand your message and rules. But you should not give up or give in! I sometimes feel tiring and pathetic hearing myself keep repeating the same thing to my children, and they still don’t get it.

But hey! repetition is learning.

Did you know that children can naturally be very forgetful? That’s because they are more motivated by their own interests which are usually different from yours, so your rules and values are last on their list!

Repeat, repeat and repeat!

I’ve outlined 5 simple ways how to get your child to obey rules at home from my No More Talking Back report. Read it here.

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2. How to Make Your Children Obey
3. How to Deal With Children Behavior Problems

I’m sure you’ve experienced this yourself at home. It’s really tough to make our children obey nowadays, especially with a lot of ‘outside’ influences coming into our children’s lives.

They’re simply exposed to too many things. TV, Internet, peers at school, just to name a few.

What I feel important is that as a parent, you should start from TODAY, and slowly make your children obey you more and more.

I’m going to give you 3 very important things that you should always, always keep in mind if so that your child to obey your instructions.

You’re The Parent

It is very common that parents themselves forgot that they are the person of authority. You need to make your children understand (from a very young age) that you’re the authority figure and whatever you say goes and there should not be any objections and arguments from them.

Make it clear to them that disobeying and any objections is not an option. I’m very sure if you start raising your children this way from young, they’ll automatically obey your instructions and order in the future.

That’s because your style of parenting is already embedded in them since day 1!

Don’t Yell At Them

I’ve said this many time over and over, and I shall say it again. What does it means you you yell?

How does your children interpret the situation when you start yelling at them?

It simply means you’re losing control! The immediate consequence is that your children will know they’re in a ‘advantage’ position and has taken control of the situation from you. Now, I’m sure that is something that you wouldn’t want. Try your best to remain calm and yet firm and talking and disciplining your children.

Remember, don’t yell.

Remember The Consequences

You need to let your children know the consequences of not obeying your orders and instructions. Don’t try to do it deliberately as you might end up sounding more like threatening them rather than letting the message go across.

Let them know what are the consequences of disobeying, stealing, lying, misbehaving, etc. You can discipine your children by teaching them from young that if they don’t obey, it will lead to tougher disciplinary actions from you.

Remember, always keep these 3 things in mind when you are teaching or disciplining your children.

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2. How to Respond to Children Who Use Bad Language
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