What’s one of the biggest challenges for parents when there’s more than 1 child at home?
I know there are many challenges, but I’ll be focusing on only ONE in this article.
It gets challenging when your children fight among themselves.
Which child is right, and which is wrong?
..or you remain neutral?
Remaining neutral is NOT an easy task!
If you are dealing with your children constantly fighting it is important to set up some ground rules with them to teach them to…
FIGHT FAIR.
Set ground rules.
It can be such as no physical violence, like hitting or kicking each other. No calling each other names. Being careful not to raise voices at each other.
You never know how useful are these ground rules until you start putting them in place.
When the fights begin, you start by having each child identify what their problem is.
Ask them to come up with a few ideas that would solve the problem.
If they continue to bicker during this process, then ask them to separate into different areas and come back with their solutions within a few minutes.
Give each child a chance to share their ideas. If they have trouble coming up with solutions, offer some solutions that you think might work.
Everyone should agree on the solution. This process can be lengthy but stick it out and you will begin to see change.
Once your children are used to the steps above, its time for you to stay out of it.
When they come to you to tattle on the other, tell them politely it is not your problem and you believe that they both can come up with a solution to work it out.
Let them find the solution to their fights, themselves.
Remember, never ever take sides with one child or the other.
Even if you clearly can see the one child might be in the wrong, try and have that child identify that for themselves.
Remember, taking sides encourages sibling rivalry and teaches the child to avoid problem solving skills by getting someone to stick up for them.
You can learn how to be a neutral parent in situation where your children are fighting with more tips and tricks inside the S.T.O.P & T.H.W.A.R.T Siblings Fighting System.
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you are a great mum!
hi thanks for the help. i have 2 children one of 2years and the other of 4 years. and i can say that when they fight it is difficult for me to control them. iloose the temper ,.