A child is a parent’s most prized possession.
We should do all that we can to make sure that our child will have the best opportunity to make it in this world.
A child who exhibits the character trait of respect, for himself and for others, will have a better advantage than a child who does not. I hope this article will supply you will a few techniques to help your child develop this very important character trait.
If you want to teach your child to be respectful, you must begin so by exhibiting this particular character trait. You cannot successfully teach a child to do something that he does not witness from others. Your child will not do as you say, but will do as he or she has seen done by others.
You must be respectful of others. Your neighbors, the mailman, the preacher, and especially your spouse. You must be able to accept the ideal and opinions of others, though sometimes you may disagree.
Remember that your child is always watching you. For a child to be successful in this life, he must learn to get along with others in a civil manner, and to respect the different ideas and behaviors of others even though they are different from his own ideas and behaviors.
If you want to teach your child to be respectful, you must also respect your child. For your child to be able to respect himself, he must be respected by his parents. Your child learns by watching you.
You can show your child respect in different ways.
1. Listen to Them
Don’t interrupt when he is talking. Be open to his ideas, and allow him to express himself. Don’t supply a critical remark. Don’t critique what he is saying.
Allow him to say what he needs to say, and give him time to do so.
This does not mean to allow your child to be disrespectful to you. When conversing, the conversation should be a two way interaction. You say something, then the child says something, without the parent being critical. This empowers the child with self esteem which is a building block for showing respect to others. You are respecting your child, and by so doing you are teaching him how to respect himself and others. Very good!
2. You Cannot Allow You Child to Treat You Disrespectful
If you do, you are teaching him to treat others the same way.
Never allow your child to say hurtful, offensive, aggressive things to you or others. If your child is already in these behaviors, it is going to be hard to stop.
The first step in preventing or correcting your child from exhibiting negative behaviors is to never allow your child to observe such negative behaviors.
The second step is to never give your child the opportunity to ‘practice’ what he has seen performed. If your child begins with disrespectful behavior, send him to his room using a calm voice. Allow him time to think about what he has done, then enter his room and speak to him in calm tones, allowing him also time to respond.
State firmly that disrespect will not be tolerated within this home.
3. Allow Your Child to Make Decisions
You can begin by giving your child the choice between two good alternatives. Avoid being the decision maker concerning everything your child is to do. Providing choices shows your child respect, which is also teaching him to be respectful.
Never allow your child to hear you say harsh, negative things about others. You can disagree with the behavior and opinions of others, but don’t show disrespect while doing so. You may disagree with your child’s teacher, but don’t criticize the teacher in front of your child.
Teaching your child to obey the teacher even when there are conflicts of opinions is teaching your child to respect all authority figures. To criticize a teacher and confront them on every issue is teaching your child to rebel against the teacher, as well as others. By not respecting your child’s teacher, you are hurting your child for a life time.
Teachers are not going to do things correctly every time. Teachers make mistakes. When parents aren’t supportive of teachers and understand to the fact that teachers do make mistakes, it is teaching the child to be disrespectful.
The teacher and the child enter this tug of war. The experience is not good for the teacher; not good for the child.
When your child comes home and is not happy about what is going on at school, encourage him to cooperate, and be ‘nice’ to his teacher. If there appears to be a big problem going on at school, don’t say anything negative in front of your child. Go to the teacher and speak with her ASAP.
If a problem, like a dandelion, is ‘up-rooted’ when it is first begins to appear, the problem won’t become a bigger problem.
Teachers are there for your child; they will appreciate your input and concerns.
Follow these suggestions also apply to the preacher, to the neighbor down the street, to grandparents, to the school bus driver, and to your spouse.
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