Why Can’t A Child Have Self Confidence?

Have you ever wondered why some children so confident about everything, while some are just so quiet and shy that they seldom utter even a word?

Just imagine the way they speak, the way they do things and the way they carry themselves.

You’d think that, where did he or she gets all these confidence from when they are still so young?

We all want our children to grow up enough of self confidence and self esteem. But more often that not, I realized many parents didn’t know what to do to instill confidence in their children.

So, here are 4 ways to help you child to build up self confidence and self esteem.

1. Give The Child Opportunities

By giving your child a lot of opportunities to help you, it encourages them to become more independent and be responsible. For example, you can let your child to choose which fruit she wants to eat at the grocery store, or have he or she get something for you at the shelves in the store. It can be any tasks.

Just remember to start with small and simple tasks when they are young.

And as they grow up, you can increase their responsibilities by assigning them bigger tasks.

2. Always Show Your Appreciation

Whenever your child accomplishes a task, show them that you appreciate it. You don’t need to always buy gifts or bring them out for a good meal. Just a few words of encouragement will do sometimes, or you can give them a pat on the back and say “Well done!”

The more important thing is to show to the child that you are really sincere in your words, and you really mean it.

3. Don’t Set Them Up For Failure

I’ve seen this happen with many parents. If you know your child can’t run well, don’t force them to participate in the 100m run at school because you’d like to see them run.

Or if they have no interests in music, don’t force them to attend a piano class just because your neighbor’s child is good at it. Forcing your child to do something which they have no talent or interests in will lead to rejections, and rejections will eventually lead to low self confidence.

This is true especially for young children as the rejections they have had during their childhood will forever haunt them.

However, if you find your child is talented or very interested in something, you can either sign them up for a class or encourage them to venture more into it.

4. Stop Comparing!

All children are different. Period.

Never compare your child with someone else’s, or even with their siblings. You have to accept the fact that every child is born different. They have different interests, different talents, different thinking and behaviors.

For example, don’t say words like :

“Why did you fail your Maths exam when your brother used to get A+ all the time?”

“Why can’t you behave and be obedient like John?”

Question of The Day

What are you doing to help your child to build you self confidence and self esteem?

Do share it with us here!

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